Why Does My Partner
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Why Does My Partner
We're couple therapists and messy humans bumbling through our own relationships everyday. Between us we have more than 40 years of experience holding hard relational questions with our clients. We’re going to bring those questions here. And together we’re going to take a stab at answering those ques...
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With Full Hearts: Capacity, Growth, and Our Final Episode
Dear WDMP Community,
What an incredible journey it’s been. We feel so lucky to have been in connection with you over the years as we’ve explored...
Police My Words?
As we reach the end of our season 7 deep dive into communication, it’s no surprise that so many of the same themes have kept showing up in our convers...
Insist That We Should Both Agree on Their Version of What Happened?
How is it that two people could remember an event so differently, and both be so sure that their version is right? Why is it so hard to take in when s...
Make Plans Without Asking Me First?
One cool thing about neurodiversity is that if you get three friends and podcast co-hosts together to talk about a listener question, a lot of the tim...
Avoid Conflict?
What happens inside of our brains when we face potential conflict? A whole lot is what. One thing that we don’t always realize is that we have subcort...
Criticize My Parenting?
“Why does my partner criticize my parenting?” If you’re in a partnership, even without children, there’s a good chance some version of this has come u...
Feel Offended When I Don't Listen to Their Advice?
We love it when our listeners come to us with their YOU-turn already built into the question, not just because it means that what we do is helping som...
Ask Questions About Me?
Humans have a deep need for closeness, to feel known and that those around us care and want to know us deeply. And that can feel really, really vulner...
Try to Give Me a Script to Follow When We're in a Fight?
The internet (and books, magazines, and a whole lot of couples’ therapy offices) are full of scripts to follow to help partners navigate conflict. But...
Beat themselves up when I tell them I have an issue with their behavior?
When we start beating ourselves up in front of our partners when they have an issue with our behavior, what is it that we’re actually doing? Can we ta...
Reflect and Listen?
As couples’ therapists, the most common questions we get are about communication. But what does it take to make that work in a relationship? That’s su...
Feel Better After Unloading
Why do I have to feel bad for my partner to feel better? When does venting cross the line and become unloading? Guest host Ann Kelley joins us one mor...
Advice for Early Stage Relationships
We’re back with special guest Ann Kelley of the Therapist Uncensored podcast, and folks, she’s dropping knowledge bombs left and right on this one. Ou...
Why Does My Partner Get Mad at Me When I Come Back from Out of Town?
Welcome back to the Why Does My Partner Podcast. For this bonus mini-series, were joined by Ann Kelley from the Therapist Uncensored podcast to tackle...
Why Doesn't My Partner Take Care of Me When I'm Upset?
Dear listeners, before you start listening to this episode, would you try something with us?
Sit back in your chair. Take a breath for a second....
Why Does My Partner Want Me to Tell Him How to Change?
If your partner asked you to tell them how they should change, would that feel gratifying or scary? And how would you react? If that thought makes you...
Why Does My Partner Interrupt Me?
What are the conversation patterns in your relationship? Do you tend to leave a lot of space for silence, or talk fast and interrupt each other a lot?...
My partner broke trust. So why do they say that they don't trust me?
Having a trusting relationship means you and your partner never let each other down ever, right? WDMP Podcast listeners know the answer to that one…no...
Give Me Anxiety
Anxiety is a signal that’s really good at letting you know something isn’t working – the only thing is, it’s not so good at pointing out exactly what...
Threaten to Leave When We Argue?
Welcome back to the WDMP podcast. Today’s question brought up a lot of feelings in us. More than anything, we want to offer our support and compassion...
Stay Upset When I Try to Repair?
When we talk about repair, we’re talking about a whole lot more than saying you’re sorry. Sometimes jumping to apologize right away can actually be co...
Neurodiverse Relationships
Today’s listener question comes from a partner in a neurodiverse couple, asking us to talk about navigating differences when one partner has neurologi...
Why does my husband not see things in our house that are askew?
Our brains are taking in an incredible 11 million bits of information per second! Thank goodness we’ve got our salience neural network - system of neu...
Isn't it fair to ask our partner not to scoff at us?
Here we are in season 6 of the Why Does My Partner podcast! We want to start out with a question we’ve been getting a lot, especially since our bounda...
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[BONUS] Is there something wrong with me for not wanting physical contact?
For this final episode of our bonus series on boundaries, our listener question is about struggling to say no to physical touch from their partner whe...
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[BONUS] Push Me Until I Lose It?
Y’all, this episode is jam packed. We’ve got not one but TWO questions from listeners that get us diving straight into you-turns, compassion practices...
![[BONUS] Why do I feel so bad when my partner gets disappointed or mad at me?](https://artwork.captivate.fm/ab150d7a-2150-4c03-b146-72987ffcc2a0/V8x5g-LDvnfsKePWVjibTcOf.jpg)
[BONUS] Why do I feel so bad when my partner gets disappointed or mad at me?
This is a really special episode of WDMP to share with you! Our regular listeners know that we don’t shy away from sharing examples of our own relatio...
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[BONUS] Respect My Boundaries
It’s episode 2 of our mini-series on boundaries, and we’ve got a listener question that we think a lot of our listeners are going to relate to. Have y...
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[BONUS] Intro to Boundaries Miniseries: 6 Steps to Setting Boundaries
Guess what, Jules wrote a book! It’s called Setting Boundaries that Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected, an...
Never Want to Celebrate Holidays or Major Milestones
It's our final episode of season five, and the question we’re answering today is “Wouldn’t it just be easier if we were all the same?” Okay, that’s no...
Feel Okay With Getting Close When She's Leaving in Six Months
What if a relationship ending didn’t mean it was a failure? It’s our second-to-last episode of season 5. We’re answering a question that takes us insi...
Have Trouble With My Feelings
It’s another two-fer episode today, with a pair of questions that have to do with partners interrupting or getting annoyed when the other partner want...
Accuse Me of Invalidating His Feelings
Today we have an extra special episode of Why Does My Partner, as we welcome our special guest, Al Hoberman! Besides being the sound editor and produc...
Let Go of Focusing on the Relationship When Things in Their Life Get Stressful
What happens inside of your relationship when things in other parts of your life start to get stressful? Maybe it feels like you have less time to ded...
Why Does Everything My Partner Does Irritate Me?
Congratulations! You’ve been working hard on this relationship, and it really feels like you’re getting to the next level. So why is it that everythin...
Want to Hurt Me
We talk about hurt a lot on this podcast, so much so that we released a whole mini-series called “Discord Builds Trust...No Really!” (Check it out if...
Expect Fairness
What do apes, grapes, and celery have to do with each other? They’re all on today’s episode of the WDMP podcast! Our listener question brings us to ex...
Want to Get Back Together After Breaking Up With Me
We’re not going to lie, today’s question hit home for a lot of us here at Why Does My Partner HQ. We’re sharing our stories of relationships where it...
Use Sex as a Weapon
Here we are with Season 5 of the Why Doesn’t My Partner podcast! This episode is about mismatch, but don’t let the title fool you - it’s not just abou...