The Stuck Stops Here
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The Stuck Stops Here
I am on a healing journey, breaking cycles of toxic family patterns of mental, verbal, and emotional abuse that have plagued my family for generations. My children deserved better than what I got so I embarked on a path of healing, addressing the internal pain caused by the rage, fear, guilt,...
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TSSH 66 - Karma Delivers and it Sucks
When narcissistic parents starts ageing, people eventually see through the false charm and see the person for who they really are. Their behavior ten...
TSSH 65 - Bigger! Better! Faster! More! Now!
All-or-nothing thinking is a a cognitive distortion. Cognitive meaning the way you understand, think, and perceive. And Distortion meaning misleading...
TSSH 64 - Now You See Me. Now You Don't.
Object Constancy is a cognitive skill we acquire at around 2 years old and is defined as the ability to maintain an emotional bond with others, even w...
TSSH 63 - Be Silent and Obey the System 🤫
Toxic family rules live at the center of a dysfunctional family system and are designed to keep secrets hidden, enable abuse, keep children in line an...
TSSH 62 - 3 Miserable Musts and 8 Destructive Beliefs (Dr. Albert Ellis)
Albert Ellis, who is considered the 2nd most influential psychotherapist in history died in 2007 and believed psychological problems are due to pervas...
TSSH 61 - Codependency Defined-Redefined-Explained-Renamed
“Something happened to us a long time ago. It happened more than once. It hurt us. We protected ourselves the only way we knew how. We are still prote...
TSSH 60 - You Stay There. I Will Go Here.
Boundaries are a way to take care of ourselves. It means verbalizing what impacts your comfort levels. It means learning how and when to say "no." Whe...
TSSH 59 - 10 painfully good things and 10 uncomfortable great things
The healing journey was and is not easy for me. It is a continuous and rigorous cycle of aha moments followed by grief followed by acceptance. If yo...
TSSH 58 - I'm Back. Less Bitter. Better.
In March of 2021, my youngest daughter and her teammates experienced horrific emotional abuse from the coach of a Division 1 collegiate athletic team....
TSSH 57 - Seeing the light with Gina Defa🕯️
Coming from a home filled with alcoholism and abuse, Gina knows the grit & grace it takes to not just survive, but to move into a life filled with pea...
TSSH 56 - Psychological resilience with Dr. Lise Deguire ❤️🩹
"I am four years old in that photo, half-naked and burned all over. I am propped up into a sitting position. My hair, which had been honey blonde and...
TSSH 55 - Healing the physical effects from parental emotional abuse with Special Guest - Vera Wilhelmsen🤒
Vera Wilhelmsen was once ill with "incurable" chronic illness as a result from narcissistic abuse from her parents and grandparents. She fought her wa...
TSSH 54 - STEPpin' It Up - A Surprising Reconciliation 🔑🔓
There is significant truth behind the statement "everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about". A conversation with my stepsister reveals how...
TSSH 53 - Creating space for The Conversation with Colleen Perry 🔊👂
"It is my goal to help other who grew up in homes with Alcoholics. I tell my story in hopes of bringing awareness to Alcoholism. I want to help other...
TSSH 52 - Counter-dependency (Radical Self Reliance)🤐🤫
Codependency, the habit of gaining your self worth from pleasing others, is something most people know of nowadays. But it’s lesser known opposite, ca...
TSSH 51 - A Poem and an Unsent Letter🖊️✍️
On my healing journey, I wrote (but never sent) a letter to my toxic parents. Journal therapy originated in the 1960s with psychologist Dr. Ira Progo...
TSSH 50 - Subtle Abuse With Not So Subtle Results 🔨🧰
Emotional abuse is a way to control another person by using emotions to criticize, embarrass, shame, blame, or otherwise manipulate another person. In...
TSSH 49 - Guilt and Shame are NOT the Same 😲
Shame is often referred to as “the toxic cousin of guilt. Guilt says “I’ve done something bad”. Shame says “I am bad”. Shame may show up in some of...
TSSH 48 - Pain of Thrones, Comparisons, Pedestals and Death of Joy. < >
Comparing ourselves to others allows them to drive our behavior. I often worked too hard to determine what others expected so I can make sure I fit...
TSSH 47 - Passion For Or Addiction To ???? 🤷♀️🧠
When parents emotionally ignore children, they feel invisible, invalidated, worthless, and disconnected from their true self. Parents with unhealed e...
TSSH 46 - Little Bent Not Broken 💔 Featured Guest: Marisa
Marisa shares her story of surviving and healing from childhood emotional, mental, and physical abuse through Instagram (@littlebent_notbroken) to hel...
TSSH 45 - Musical Affirmation and Lyrical Validation 🎹🎭
The problem with negative thoughts is that they can become self-fulfilling prophecies. We talk ourselves into believing that we're not good enough. An...
TSSH 44 - Hail to the Gail - Founder of The Buttrfly Effect 🦋
Gail Ferguson Jones is an award-winning journalist, speaker, podcaster and family recovery coach. She is a recovering codependent who survived the tra...
TSSH 43 - 1 single revelation every BIG STEP she takes 🎩👢
Toxic Family Dynamics
5 Toxic Family Roles
The “Hero” or “Responsible Child” -T hey are self-sufficient, perfectionistic, and over-...
TSSH 42 - Dis-ease + Unmet Needs = Theraplease 🙏
Definition of dis-ease - a particular quality, habit, or disposition regarded as adversely affecting a person or group of people.
Early e...
TSSH 41 - Come On Baby, Gaslight My Fire 🔥
Gaslighting — any sort of statement that makes someone doubt their own feelings or perceptions — is a common tactic used in abusive relationships. But...
TSSH 40 - Grey Rock n' Roll 🎸
The phrase “Gray Rock Method” was first coined by blogger Skylar in this article on her website: https://180rule.com/the-gray-rock-method-of-dealing-w...
TSSH 39 - Come Heal With Highwater 💧(Featured Guest: Annie Highwater)
Annie Highwater is a Writer, Speaker, Podcast Host and Family Advocate. She has a particular interest in family pathology and concepts of dysfunction,...
TSSH 38 - Healing Breadcrumbs To Nibble On 🍞🦜 (Featured Guest: Carol Campos)
For years (actually decades!) Carol didn’t know what she wanted to do. She had been working in the corporate world for over 20 years, most recently in...
TSSH 37 - REAL - actually existing in fact; not imagined - True Self & False Self
A false self is created as an adaptation to emotionally ignorant and immature parents who selfishly wallowed in self-unawareness and project their nee...
TSSH 36 - Comfortably Miserable
Season 3 Episode 3
Our brains overreact when facing uncertainty because they’re wired to react to it with fear. Research has shown that as the u...
TSSH 35 - human DOings & human BEings
Season 3 Episode 2 - human DOings & human BEings
Doing more, constantly putting myself out there, saying yes to every opportunity, cradling eve...
TSSH 34 - Heal in Place. Fill your Still. (topic: anger)
Heal in Place. Fill your Still. Anger. I used to be angry…most of the time. I have a mother, father and stepfather with various personality disorders...
TSSH 33 - The ART of Healing Creatively 🎨🖌(Featured Guest: Jennifer Pazienza)
Season 3 | Episode 1. This is an AMAZING STORY.
Jennifer Pazienza lives on Keswick Ridge in New Brunswick, Atlantic Canada and creates...
TSSH 32 - Heal in Place. Fill your Still. (topic: Triggers)
Heal in Place. Fill your Still. Triggers. What are emotional triggers? They are those super-reactive places inside you that become activated by someon...
TSSH 31 - Nothing good comes from SHOULD 👍👎👈
Season 2 Episode 10. Should statements give you two options: you pass or you fail–when in reality, life is much more complex than that. And when we d...
TSSH 30 - Heal in Place. Fill your Still. (topic: setting boundaries)
Heal in Place. Fill your Still. Setting boundaries. Most people who have weak personal boundaries had no role models when they were young. Witnessing...
TSSH 29 - Heal in Place. Fill your Still. (topic: emotional neglect)
Emotional neglect is different from emotional abuse because it is often unintentional. Parents, due to their own misery and preoccupation with unheale...
TSSH 28 - Heal in Place. Fill your Still. (topic: Family Systems)
Part of my healing journey is fulfilling a recently discovered life purpose by reaching out to those in need of healing from emotional abuse by toxic...
TSSH 27 - Heal in Place. Fill your Still. (topic: Respond vs React)
Heal in Place. Fill your Still. Respond vs React. When you react, your emotions are in control, with no thought of consequences. Feelings are not fac...